My Life

Today’s piece has been written anonymously but shows nothing short of immense courage in laying their whole story out there. The resilience shown by COA’s is nothing short of amazing and i know that for me, each and every time I read a story like this I feel less alone. If you you feel triggered…

100 Posts, Coaisathing – How It Was Made

So, less than 2 years after the first post, we have reached 100 posts on coaisathing.com. To celebrate, I thought I would make this post about the journey so far. How did coaisathing come about?  The actual name ‘coaisathing’ was born out of my realisation that not only were the ways I had felt linked…

Stop Trying To Fix Me!

Imagine you are in a hospital bed. You have an illness, its bad but the doctors have said it will get better. They have told you there is not a lot you can do but rest up. So that is what you are doing. Yet all your friends that visit you keep tugging at your…

Blood Is Not Always Thicker Than Water!

I haven’t personally posted anything for a while, I have just been so busy with everything going on that I just haven’t had a chance. The ‘secret’ facebook group is in full swing and has a really good bunch of people in there already just sharing experience. It really has offered a place wherever I…

The Runaway.

This is another raw piece written anonymously.  If you feel you are affected by a parent that drinks too much, Nacoa are always on hand to offer help and support. If you would like post on this site then please get in touch.  I remember the first time I ever ran away from home. I…

I Was Brave.

This piece has been sent in to be posted anonymously and brings new meaning to what it is to be brave. To put this down in writing and then to share on this platform in the hope it may help others shows true courage.  Nacoa offer a vital first point of contact to anyone who…

A Constant Undoing.

This short, yet powerful piece is written by Eleña H. If you feel affected by what you read always remember Nacoa offer an amazing first point of contact for anyone affected by a parents drinking. If you would like to share as the child of a alcohol abuser then please visit here.  We also now have…

7 Ways My Childhood Traumas Impact Me As A Parent.

I have thought about writing this piece for a long time. I feel it is important to challenge myself as a father. Being a child of alcoholic and so having had a traumatic childhood, the use of denial is something that I can easily fall into if I don’t step back and question myself from…