I cannot begin to tell you the positive affect that writing a blog has had on me. I have only been doing it for a short amount of time, but along with the YouTube videos, it has really opened up my world. I have found freedom from things I didn’t know I was imprisoned by, and begun to remember things I had long since forgotten. I have spent my life seeking relief, when it’s release I have needed, and over the last 5 years I have been finding that release in all kinds of places. Blogging is now one of them.
I’m also finding that it seems to be helping a lot of people. Which is what I always hoped. Being the child of an alcoholic made my thoughts and feeling so hard to break down. I knew there was a lot going on, because of the noise in my head, but I struggled to bring that to the front of my mind and portray that into words. When I started reading other people’s experiences my thoughts began popping out as clear as day. It was like my mind was a bingo machine, and every time I related, it fired out another ball of thought. So that’s really been the main purpose for all this. All my life I knew I was in pain, but I had no idea why. With that came a deep loneliness, a life without connection. So when people connect with a post, I can see how it can be a lifeline.
Being a husband, a dad to 5, and working full time, it’s not always easy finding the time, but I find it. Every blog I’ve written, I have done in the notes on my phone. Mainly during break times at work, but also any other spare couple of minutes I can find. Then, of an evening I copy and paste it all up onto the blog and hey presto!! The YouTube videos are a lot less planned and I just prop my phone on something and talk to the camera!
My point is, anyone that feels they would benefit from doing this, can do it. Not every child of an alcoholic wants, nor feels the need to share their story, and it wouldn’t necessarily benefit us all, but I want to give everyone the opportunity to have a go if they so wish. So if you feel like you want to share your story, or that you think your story has the power to help, then get in touch! Use the the coaisathing contact form and leave me an email address and I will get in touch. It will be your post, so you can do as much or as little as you like, and you can also do it completely anonymously if you like. You don’t even have to tell me your name! All I’ll need is your email so I can get in touch to discuss what you would like to do! Of course, nobody else will see your email and it will all be confidential.
For the past 26 years NACOA has been creating a community for the millions of children of alcoholics that continues to grow. Creating an umbrella of outlets that act as lifelines to the millions of children, and adult children of alcoholics everywhere. Something everyone can be a part of, and a community that upon finding, could ease a child’s loneliness. You’re own blog post could be a part of that.
I will let you know the dates of when your post goes out and send links etc incase you’d like to share your post too!
Look forward to maybe hearing from some of you, and helping to grow the COA community!