My Life

Today’s piece has been written anonymously but shows nothing short of immense courage in laying their whole story out there. The resilience shown by COA’s is nothing short of amazing and i know that for me, each and every time I read a story like this I feel less alone. If you you feel triggered…

100 Posts, Coaisathing – How It Was Made

So, less than 2 years after the first post, we have reached 100 posts on coaisathing.com. To celebrate, I thought I would make this post about the journey so far. How did coaisathing come about?  The actual name ‘coaisathing’ was born out of my realisation that not only were the ways I had felt linked…

A Constant Undoing.

This short, yet powerful piece is written by Eleña H. If you feel affected by what you read always remember Nacoa offer an amazing first point of contact for anyone affected by a parents drinking. If you would like to share as the child of a alcohol abuser then please visit here.  We also now have…

7 Ways My Childhood Traumas Impact Me As A Parent.

I have thought about writing this piece for a long time. I feel it is important to challenge myself as a father. Being a child of alcoholic and so having had a traumatic childhood, the use of denial is something that I can easily fall into if I don’t step back and question myself from…

A Mum Without A Mum On Mothers Day.

This piece is anonymously written and is the thoughts of a COA and how they struggled like so many do on Mothers Day. I am sure many will find comfort in this person being able to articulate the ways so many feel on such a day.  Always remember that Nacoa offer life saving love and…

Lowestoft Reminded Me Of The Importance Of Love.

I arrived at the conference just after 9am. There was already a crowd of people gathering, nearly all of whom I didn’t know. I found Tod, who was of course, busy setting up and so I nervously hung around near him until I could latch on to someone who I could talk at, that’s always…

A Lifetime Of Loneliness.

I read recently in the news that a ‘Minister for loneliness’ was to be appointed here in the UK, to tackle our growing problem with loneliness and it got me thinking about all the times that I had felt lonely in my life. I have felt lonely many many times throughout my life, sometimes I…

John – Alcohol And My Family.

Over the course of the last few days i have been posting this story. Each day, I have posted a different one of the 4 family member’s stories, all written in first person. The idea behind this is to show just how differently each family member sees the problem drinking and how it affects them…

Ellana – Alcohol And My Family.

Over the course of the next few days I will be posting this story. Each day, I will post a different one of the 4 family member’s stories, all written in first person. The idea behind this is to show just how differently each family member sees the problem drinking and how it affects them…

Tom – Alcohol And My Family.

Over the course of the next few days I will be posting this fictional story. Each day, I will post a different one of the 4 family member’s stories, all written in first person. The idea behind this is to show just how differently each family member sees the problem drinking and how it affects…